I’m a firm believer in karma (ie. whatever you put into this world, that is what you’ll take out of it). Not only have I lived it, but I’ve seen others live it. They’re the most mean, spiteful people I’ve ever met in my life. They constantly wonder why the world is out to get them. These people usually have poor health, poor home-training, and can’t make a good decision to save their sorry lives. If they do something good, it usually comes with hooks.
Not that long ago, I was put in a position where I needed some one to count on and was too scared to ask. Out of nowhere, my friend Stacey (I don’t think she reads my blog and if she does, I’ll find out tomorrow) stepped up to the plate and came to my rescue. I didn’t expect it, so I can’t begin to tell you the impact it has made on my life. In fact, she continues to stick by my side, as do some of my closest friends who can’t physically be here. You know who you are. 😉 One way or another, I’ll figure out how to Stacey back because I can’t help not to.
Edie Ramer is one of my inspirations for wanting to pay it forward. Not only is she one hell of a writer, but she’s the best when it comes to helping me dig out the conflict and motivation behind my characters. I run to her with my crappy blurb in one hand and my hair pulled out in plugs in the other. She helps me mold my blurbs and make them better, and I love her for it. So, showing her some love on my blog is the least I can do.
People feel used and abused all of the time. It makes it hard to give to anyone when you’re down in the dumps and don’t feel like it’s being reciprocated. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt like this. But I chalk it up to a lesson learned and make it a point to avoid those particular people.
I’m not NY published and I don’t have an agent. Very few people know I’ve been agented in the past (we had parted ways for reasons beyond either of our control). Whenever my friends ask me agenting questions, I have no problem with sharing my experience. When my crit partner asks me for help that has nothing to do with writing, you bet I’m going to give it to her because she’s my friend, too.
Whether you like to repay or just pay it forward, it’s the thought that counts. I think we get too caught up with “what’s in it for me” that we don’t put our heart into what we do for someone else. We don’t think about the impact that we made on some else’s life because we’re all about “my needs” and “my wants”. We all have those, so it’s nothing new. But I find when I give to someone when they least expect it, that smile on their face makes it all worthwhile. 😀
In what ways do you try to repay or pay it forward? Even if it doesn’t work out or you don’t follow through, just the fact that you tried is enough. Unless, you’re a cold-hearted bastard who has a “I got mine, so you gotta get yours” attitude. In that case, don’t leave a comment. We’re better off not knowing. 😉
And before I forget, there’s a reason why I have that picture of the Sixth Sense on my blog. Edie made it to the next round of American Title V contest for her paranormal DEAD PEOPLE. If you think I’m lying about her mad skills as a best blurber/summarizer around, check out her summary for DEAD PEOPLE. Then, vote for her by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and putting DEAD PEOPLE in the subject line.